Monogam "Ish" Commentary

  T hings that pop into our heads about polyamory It’s embarrassing to watch public displays (PDA) of affection, especially when it’s not that way with us It’s extremely difficult to accept changes we did not choose Things are moving too fast What if the significant other or girlfriend ignores my existence? Oh na'w, hell no that  ain't  happening! It’s on now. (this is war mode) Agreements are important to me: It means I can trust you, and can actually see the effect of it.   How do I know when to call out my mate/DH regarding behaviors that are not supportive of our relationship or my needs  or are in direct violation of already outlined agreements   My life is changing and it’s up to me to steer it in a positive fulfilling direction. I must affirm that I am important and nothing has  changed other than the structure of the existing relationship. Don’t fall victim to the slippery sl...

Deep down what is it that disturbs us about our loved ones being polyamorous.  Is it our beliefs, influenced by external societal forces or our morality as defined by a series strictly encoded rights and wrongs. Do we have broad cultural parameters, or are they more narrowly defined and everything is black and white exclusively. Could there be more.  Is polyamory a more personalized experience? Who, What, When, Where, How and Why do not apply…. At least not now that is. Now is an unbelievably harrowing and soul wracked convergence of opposing beliefs, truths and emotional states.  What really impacts our perception so much, that the intrusion of polyamory disrupts our daily lives? Yes….really it is that strong of a force.  It’s called a chronic stressor, and that my friends can set you up for some nasty problems- with one caveat. If you let it. The Mono/Poly journey is personal, everyone experiences it differently and yet there are commonalities that...